In-home DNA test says he is not the father, what now?
:Classic story, broke up, got back together, got pregnant. Was fully convinced she was his, but I was in a 4 month relationship prior to reconciling...anyway, we split up a while back and I am waiting for a court date on Child Support for my two kids, my son is 100% his, so I still have to pursue that. I do not want the biological father to ever know or even be in our lives, my fiance is her nonbiological father, she calls him daddy.
What steps do I take from here? Who do I contact to stop the court from purusing child support on him for just ONE of the children, will they even do that?
How do I change the name on the birth certificate? If I want to give her my fiances last name instead of mine, does he have to legally adopt her? What is THAT process?
This is all overwhelming for me. Please give honest and nonjudgemental answers. Thank you.
Tags: biological father, birth certificate, child support, fiance, relationship
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
Wow, I feel sorry for your next ex husband.
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
Just how reliable is a home DNA test anyway? I don’t think I have even heard of one. I would get a REAL paternity test done before I went through everything you are saying you want to do. Ever heard the saying "Let sleeping dogs lie"? If you think you are overwhelmed just think how your child is going to feel 18 years from now when you have to tell her about what a mess you made of your life before she was born. Unless of course you plan on lying to her too.
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
dont ever do that go get the real one done
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
so you going to lie to the non biological dad about the child being his and you want to remove the rights of the biological dad. thats very very low
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
why would anyone marry you is beyond me……………..
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
you will have to get a lawyer and take this to court if he really wants to adopt her. they will want to know every one you have slept with in that time period you will either have to send them a letter to let them know, if they dont respond in the time frame that she will be getting adopted. or they might let you post it in the paper under legal —. if they dont respond he can adopt her. this will end up costing you a couple grand to even do this
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
first of all, DNA doesnt make you the father. i live in ontario canada and my two oldest children call my hubby daddy but are clearly not his, (they are white, he is black) they dont know there father, he chose this not me. i was told by a paralegal that if we split i can go after him for child support for all three even though two arent his. we arent married yet but have been living together and are raising a family so the government considers us ‘commonlaw’ once we do get married (late summer!!! so sycked) he will be adopting my two older ones. contact your court house and ask for a name change form its gonna be expensive) yes he has to adopt her if she isnt his. call an adoption agency, they can probably give you tips on how to do this.
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
Talk to your attorney or just speak up in court. Please please do not make this man be financially responsible for a child that is not his. Painful as it is, you have to stand up and tell the truth. And yes, if your fiance is not the father, he needs to adopt the child to get all that taken care of.
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
Well, I know in Ohio they require non-married parents to sumbit to DNA testing before support is determined, and your state may do the same as well. Talking to someone at the court may be of some help, they can at least point you in the right direction.
I suggest you talk to him about the results of the home test so the court-ordered one won’t be a shock to him.
I am not sure about the legal process of naming, so I can’t help you with that
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
i’m a little confused. if i have it right..it sounds like you have a son with daddy#1, that you are no longer married to, a daughter with daddy#2, who you wish not to recognize and that you are engaged to man#3 who is not the father of wither child. am i right?
so then, daddy#1 must pay support for your son.
you cannot lie (perjure) the court about your daughter. her father (daddy#2) has rights to see, support and help raise that child. even if HE choses not to be a part of her life, he still must help with financial support (education, etc)
i don’t know about man#3 and adoption..i think if the other children’s fathers agree to it, he can adopt them and give them his name..
i also have never heard of an "in home dna test". is that for real?
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
d.n.a tests have to be done by labs no such thing as a home .d.n.a test sorry but it.s true
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
look i just went trough this so this is what i did in the state of pennsylvania.. u need a lawyer. ur laywer will get u a court date and on that date u will have to ask the judge on why u want her last name changed and what does the father have to say. u may have to tell them the father name or u could say that u dont know who the father is and that u want ur fiance to be her daddy. that is what my husband did.. u just need to get a judge and breathe… ur fiance does not have to adopted her to have her take his last name..but if u want him to adopted her u may need another court date for that.. but good luck and if u need help let me know i just went through this… my self….
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
in my state, the HUSBAND is responsible for children concieved in the marriage. whether it was his sperm or not. its called like the child protection something or other. It varies by state. they are voting to get it repealed but for now it stands.
but i dont think thats MORAL go after the DADDIES for the respective child supports.
November 13th, 2009 at 7:50 am
Its very hard to do a non judgemental answer when you are doing this?? How can you lie about something like this. You are being extremely unfair on both the men, and even worse, your daughter. Grow up, tell the truth, and maybe next time you have on and off relationships, use protection so children arent the victims of your lifestyle.